Need Time

I thought being in relationship could change the situation, the situation when you are single into something better. Actually it's so hard to understand other people and let them be a part of your life. Especially when you took to long being single and suddenly have to be in relationship with someone.

First, you have to understand the one you choose to be in relationship with. You have to know his background, what kind of activities he likes, what kind of music he used to listen to, his style, is he fit to be your partner? but nobody is perfect. He totally has something that you don't like, so you have to whether accept for whoever he is or stop thinking that he might be the one you choose.

Second, when you already being into a relationship, it's totally a new world for you. Can you imagine you were always think about your ownself , share things with nobody, control your own activities, your phone rings only in urgent condition, but now is total reverse condition, your world seems to be upside down. 

So you will face so many problem and probably you will start to regret your decision as no longer single anymore, you used to enjoy your "me" time but now you have someone exactly next to you. 

Or maybe you expected something when you are in relationship, something you wish that could be happening in your relationship too after seeing your friend's relationship. After that you will start to disappointed with your own relationship. For example you saw your friend's boyfriend always there when she needs him or when she has a problem to solve but in your own relationship your boyfriend makes his job as a priority so he can't always be there when you need him.

So, never expected something will be better if you are in relationship. Sometimes being single is not bad at all. Being single is not because you can't find someone to be your partner but it is all about valuing your own life. 

You learn a lot from being single and you will also learn a lot of things from being in relationship. You learn to understand people, how to share things that you used to keep on yourself, learn not to let your ego comes first, learn how to give affection, learn to solve problem, learn that nothing is going to be as perfect as you think it could be, learn how to be more patience. 

You need time to learn all of that. It will not happen that fast. You and your partner have to built a good communication so you will understand each other, you will find a solution to every problem you face.

Goodluck